My girlfriend wants another dog and I don’t. What to do!?
My girlfriend is a huge animal lover, her mom bred small dogs growing up and she has a cat and a small dog. I grew up with one dog but besides that was never really interested in pets, I hate to sound cold but I see pets as a big time/money dump besides having one dog. Of course I fall in love with a girl who’s a huge animal lover and has a friend who Runs a foster care place with a disabled dog in need right now and she keeps pushing me to agree to adopting him. The cons of the situation are, I don’t want another dog, we live in a small apartment with 2 animals already, and we’re really tight on money at the moment, and each of us are in credit card debt. Despite this, she has a big heart and wants to save and love this dog and wants another to keep her dog company while we’re gone. I on the other hand don’t want any more pets to further take up our time/money. Instead I want to get rid of our debt, get a house, then consider a dog, but she doesn’t want to wait so we’re at odds. I feel like a terrible person saying no but I feel we have no choice given our situation. Am I out of line, is she out of line, or is it somewhere in the middle?
Signed No more pets
Dear No more pets,
I don’t think either of you is out of line. Your girlfriend has a big heart and loves animals, and you are not a terrible person for worrying about taking in a disabled dog. I don’t think it would be fair to the dog if you are in a small apartment and already have two animals. In fact, I think it might be very stressful for the disabled dog. This dog might cost a lot of money in vet bills and special food over the years, and if you take it you are taking on a big responsibility to take care of it for the rest of it’s life. It would probably be hard to re home the dog if you can’t afford to keep it in the future. The dog would also pick up on any resentment you have towards it. Would her mom adopt the dog and she can visit it? If you can’t afford it then you can’t afford it, I am with you on this one and you aren’t being mean or a terrible person. You just don’t have the money or the space for another dog. I would compromise by saying when we have a yard then we will get two dogs. Check with your apartment management too and see how many pets are allowed, if its not more then two that will be an easy out for you.
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