I have just recently retired. one year ago. I hate that I feel like all I do is cook and clean. Other than supper dishes it is mostly my job. My husband does supper dishes and other things so I can't really complain. Help
Perhaps you are feeling like all that you do is cook and clean because all you are doing is cooking and cleaning! That is very common, especially during Covid 19, I know a lot of people who are in the same boat. It’s a lot of work to plan meals, shop and clean up, Make sure you give yourself credit for that and remind your husband sometimes, so he doesn’t take it for granted, Let him know you cooked three hot meals today or whatever the case may be, so he can thank you and not take it for granted.
Is there anything your husband does that you can trade jobs with for some of the cooking? I know one retired couple who take turns cooking suppers two weeks on and two weeks off. How many times a day do you do dishes? Would it be possible to cut it down to once or twice a day at the most, leaving lunch dishes for your husband to do along with the supper dishes? Perhaps you could ask 'Would you rather clean the bathroom or do the dishes today?' This always works with my kids, they always pick dishes. Is there a way to cut down on the amount of dishes, using a paper towel instead of a plate for a sandwich, reusing the same coffee or tea cup and water glass all day instead of getting a new one for each drink? Are you purchasing your favourite dish soap, pretty rubber gloves and other nice things like new dishcloths and towels and a nice dish rack?
Speaking of dish racks, let them drip dry, Studies have proved that’s the most hygienic way to dry them and it saves you a step. Having nice, pretty things to work with helps! Are you taking extra good care of yourself to get through this massive adjustment of just retiring AND a pandemic on top of that? What have you always wanted to do deep down? What did you want to do when you were a child? Maybe you could learn an instrument or take a baby step towards a dream that’s just for you, and the housework won’t bother you as much if you are feeling more fulfilled. One thing that works for me when I have to do housework I don’t want to do is to put on upbeat music and just get it done quickly, Rasputin by Boney M works for me. Above all, be grateful that you have food to eat that makes the dirty dishes.
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