My wife is 10 weeks along she has been having really bad nightmares about me dying in a car crash. That won't happen because I don't drive neither of us do my friend or her brother drives us. She had pretty much the same nightmare about her ex-husband for nearly a year, when she was still married to him he died in a car accident at the end of the year in December a week after his 24th birthday it was just a freak accident that her brothers friend caused it wasn't her fault she keeps blaming herself for it. She felt really guilty she put her 8-year-old son through that he's now 9 going on 10 she's been really depressed over it for the past two years she said they're starting to come back only they're about me this time. She's been waking me up at night last night she woke up screaming I feel out of bed because she scared me, she thought I was mad at her, but I wasn't. How can I comfort her through this? What should I say to her?
I feel so sorry for your poor wife. She hasn’t recovered from the shock and trauma of her first husband’s death and may have PTSD. Now that she is pregnant, she might feel more fearful and have more nightmares. An appointment with your family Dr. would be a good place to start in case she is clinically depressed and needs treatment, especially since she is pregnant. Has she been to any support groups for grief? She needs to see a grief or bereavement counsellor. Your funeral home will be able to help you, and many have a sliding scale to make it affordable. You can comfort her by attending the appointments with her, and you can do everything you can to help take care of her son, staying calm, giving her lots of hugs and flowers, and starting to plan for the new baby. The sooner she gets help for this the sooner she will feel better, but it’s not something you can fix by yourself. Congratulations on your new baby, in my opinion that will help her more than anything.
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