I just found out she never eats lunch and she's been saving up the money to buy things like false nails, thongs, crop tops, padded bras and other things I won't buy for her. She's only 11. She'll skip breakfast and just drink coffee, not eat anything all day at school, get home at 5 and eat whatever I've cooked, then she'll stay up at night and cook things like ramen noodles, tomato soup and things like that. Can I put a stop to this!? She's too young to be living such an un-wholesome lifestyle.
Your letter brings back memories, at that age I used my milk money to take the city bus to school every day or spent it on chocolate bars. Your daughter is growing up, 11-year old’s can be quite mature not to mention hormonal. I think she needs to earn money so she can buy the same things the other girls are buying (within reason, they must be appropriate) and have money for lunch. Are there any jobs she can do for you for cash? Can she take a babysitting course and start babysitting? Could she pet sit or deliver papers? You should take her shopping for clothes and meet her halfway with some pretty bras and underwear, and some things to take care of her own nails. You have to let her grow up, but you also still get to put a stop to cooking after supper. I told my kids the kitchen was closed after supper, no more cooking, dishes etc. If she is starving, she can make a sandwich or have an apple, but they clean up after themselves. If you don’t want her eating ramen noodles, stop buying them. Talk to her about the school meals, maybe she doesn’t like them, and she would rather take some healthy food from home. As for breakfast, tell her no coffee until she has something else, even a Carnation instant breakfast or some toast. Decide on your own house rules and stay firm about them, but also let her try the popular fads with the other kids, most of them will be short phases.
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