During the day things seem okay.. but as night approaches (when everyone's asleep), I get reminded of the day's incidents when I ignored what my husband said in the evening, or when I was being inconsiderate or rude during the day.. I get reminded of all this late at night and feel terribly guilty for being so absent-minded throughout the day.. In the daytime I tend to unintentionally overlook and ignore so many things, and then feel guilty late at night. So guilty I feel like crying. Why does this happen?
Dear Dianna says...
I think this happens to all of us at one point or another in our lives. You sound like a caring, conscientious person so it might bother you more than a less sensitive person. I believe that this is a good thing you are going through, because in order to improve ourselves we must figure out what we are doing wrong. That is half the battle. Now that you are aware of this, you can take steps to address it. First of all, please stop being so hard on yourself. I heard a Dr. on the radio say that the chronic stress caused by the pandemic is making us more forgetful and absent minded. When things get back to normal, your stress will ease up. Until then, take steps to be mindful and stop and listen and respond when someone talks to you before moving on to the next task. Do each task properly and completely before moving on, and stop ignoring things, they won’t go away, and you will have to eventually deal with them. The trick is to do it in manageable bits, one day at a time, until it is all done. Slow down and stop and smell the roses, above all else be kind to yourself and others. Now that you have recognized the problem, the next time it happens you will stop yourself three quarters of the way through. Then the next time you will stop yourself half of the way through, and finally it just won’t happen at all. In this way, if you feel like crying about it late at night, you can tell yourself you are doing your best, you are only human, and tomorrow is another chance to do better.
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