I’m in a very happy 3-year relationship with somebody I see myself spending my life with and recently we’ve spoken about taking the relationship to the next level (marriage & children). I’m Muslim and my partner is Catholic, and this doesn’t cause any issues in the relationship. We have a clear plan of raising a child learning about both our faiths. However, I’ve asked if we do have children can they abstain from eating pork, and I’d be prepared to making a compromise with anything else. This has been declined by my partner, as he explains he doesn’t want the child to miss out. I’ve said once they reach the age of 16, they can make their own choice, but this has been declined as he is only to compromise and till the child is 4. I’ve even said I’d marry him a church and allow the child to get baptized but he’s declined all that I’m offering. Would be grateful to hear your stories or compromises you’ve made. We are both liberal with our faiths, so it’s not issue being together just when we speak of children and whether they eat pork or not.
It sounds like your boyfriend is not going to budge on this issue. Since he didn’t take you up on your offer to get married in a church and let the possible future child or children be baptized Catholic why don’t you compromise, get married in your mosque and let the child eat pork sometimes, for example when shopping if you buy hotdogs get chicken or beef hotdogs, but if your husband is having bacon and gives some to the child you can remember how you had the wedding your way and compromise by not saying anything. The age of four isn’t a bad idea because children are smart and by then you will have taught the child why you don’t eat pork, and they may or may not agree with you. You may or may not have children, we never know what a day can bring so you might be putting the cart before the horse worrying about it now. If this is something you absolutely cannot compromise with then it would be best to see a licensed marriage counsellor before going ahead and getting married because if it’s a big deal to you now it might become a huge deal later.
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