First, I want to start off by saying I’m homesick and I miss my mom and siblings more than a lot. Right now, I’m currently pregnant and my boyfriend keeps saying it’s not a good idea to visit my family. He keeps coming up with excuses saying my mom will stress me out which can affect our baby, but I know my mom more than him. We both live together, and his family is involved in our lives BUT every time I try to involve my mom or younger siblings he becomes upset as if I ruined the mood. My family lives in the next state which really isn’t far from me. I just don’t know what to do at this moment. I don’t want to upset him for visiting my family but I also I want to see them so bad. Advice please, would you be mad? I'm furious & don't know if I may be over-reacting.?
You are definitely not overreacting. Your boyfriend is being abusive, trying to isolate you from your family is a huge red flag. Make plans to go to your moms as soon as possible and stay there if you can. If your boyfriend is upset, that’s his problem. Tell your parents what he is saying, so they understand the situation and can help you. I am glad you are furious; you should be. I think you need to make plans to live somewhere else and break up with him, because if you don’t, this will escalate. I am glad you wrote to me, and you are not keeping this a secret, tell your girlfriends too. Here is the Canadian Government website on this topic: https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/cj-jp/fv-vf/about-apropos.html
I am very sorry to be the bearer of bad news, if you don’t want to break up while pregnant that is totally understandable, but at the very least please see a counsellor for yourself, it is more stressful to be missing your family so badly than to be with them, please write back and let us know how you are doing.
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