My house is driving me mad. I'm on maternity at the moment and have nothing to do all day but clean it, but somehow it never feels clean. I've donated maybe 70% of my unnecessary possessions too. Yesterday, for example, I repainted my kitchen white and scrubbed the floors, today I deep cleaned the oven and bath. Still feels filthy to me, all I can smell in the kitchen now is drains?! Our drains are fine, so I have no idea why I'm smelling it. As we rent from a family member, we can't do much to upgrade it and it is a very old, leaky, crumbly house. What do people do to make their house feel really clean? Any tricks/tips because I feel like I'm going insane 😂
Oh, your letter brings back memories. I know exactly what is happening, you are nesting. This is a very normal part of pregnancy and a very good sign that all is well. Luckily, it doesn’t’ last forever. Your house sounds spotless! You have de cluttered and deep cleaned. Now it is time to get ready for the baby, which is the fun part! Get everything ready, clothes, sheets, diapers etc. Get your own bag ready too. Put some baking soda down the drains, keep the plug in and buy a couple of those non scented odor sponges (they come in a container like a margarine container and work wonders) because old houses often smell musty in the spring when the ground is thawing. Open the windows a crack to let in the spring air. Pregnant women can often smell things a mile away, I could not sleep once because of the smell of paint and I searched the house in the night until I found a gym bag with paint clothes in it and had to put it outside. My grandma said if your windows and floors are clean, the whole house will look clean. You are definitely not going insane. Don’t forget to take the time to put your feet up and rest every day, take advantage of this time off to read or watch your favourite show because once the baby comes you won’t have time and you want to go into labour as well rested as possible. This too shall pass, hang in there and your amazing sense of smell will go back to normal when the baby is born.
How do I deal with my grandpa judging me for getting pregnant? He thinks sex, pregnancy and pregnant women are gross. I know he is being beyond ridiculous and immature, but I can't help feeling very hurt that my grandfather thinks I'm "yucky".
What an unusual reaction to becoming a great grandfather. Did you ask the other women who are mothers in your family how they dealt with him when they were pregnant? I would be interested in how your grandmother and mother feel about this. They might have some tips. Your Grandpa is set in his ways and unlikely to change at his age. I would avoid him and/or ignore him. You can certainly let him know how your feel, but please try not to feel very hurt, it is his issue, not yours, he feels the same about all pregnant women, not just you, and it won’t last forever. Hopefully, he is more pleasant to be around after the baby is born.
My wife is 10 weeks along she has been having really bad nightmares about me dying in a car crash. That won't happen because I don't drive neither of us do my friend or her brother drives us. She had pretty much the same nightmare about her ex-husband for nearly a year, when she was still married to him he died in a car accident at the end of the year in December a week after his 24th birthday it was just a freak accident that her brothers friend caused it wasn't her fault she keeps blaming herself for it. She felt really guilty she put her 8-year-old son through that he's now 9 going on 10 she's been really depressed over it for the past two years she said they're starting to come back only they're about me this time. She's been waking me up at night last night she woke up screaming I feel out of bed because she scared me, she thought I was mad at her, but I wasn't. How can I comfort her through this? What should I say to her?
I feel so sorry for your poor wife. She hasn’t recovered from the shock and trauma of her first husband’s death and may have PTSD. Now that she is pregnant, she might feel more fearful and have more nightmares. An appointment with your family Dr. would be a good place to start in case she is clinically depressed and needs treatment, especially since she is pregnant. Has she been to any support groups for grief? She needs to see a grief or bereavement counsellor. Your funeral home will be able to help you, and many have a sliding scale to make it affordable. You can comfort her by attending the appointments with her, and you can do everything you can to help take care of her son, staying calm, giving her lots of hugs and flowers, and starting to plan for the new baby. The sooner she gets help for this the sooner she will feel better, but it’s not something you can fix by yourself. Congratulations on your new baby, in my opinion that will help her more than anything.
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